Infertility Counseling
Finding Hope Through Infertility Struggles
The journey to grow your family can be filled with hope, heartbreak, and everything in between. For many, infertility brings feelings of grief, isolation, shame, or even a sense of failure. Each cycle of waiting, testing, or treatment can feel like an emotional rollercoaster.
At A New Day Psychology, I provide a safe, compassionate space to process the emotional weight of infertility. Together, we'll work through the pain while also finding ways to strengthen resilience, relationships, and hope for the future. I offer specialized support for pregnancy loss grief, perinatal anxiety, and use EMDR for traumatic fertility experiences.
Specialized Support for Fertility Challenges
I have both personal experience with infertility and advanced clinical training in supporting individuals through this season. Therapy can help with:
Coping with Infertility Diagnoses and Treatments
Processing the emotional impact of medical findings, treatments, and unknown outcomes. Giving you a space to process intense feelings like grief, loss, anger, guilt, shame, and isolation, without judgment.
Managing the Stress of Infertility
Learning effective coping and grounding skills, like mindfulness, to help navigate the emotional "rollercoaster" and uncertainty with greater calm.
Strengthen Your Relationships
Giving you tools to improve communication, intimacy, and/or connection in order to reduce relational strain related to infertility.
Grief Work
Honoring the complex grief of infertility including failed cycles, pregnancy loss, the loss of "normal", to the loss of not having the family you yearn for.
Decision-Making Support
Helping clarify personal values and goals to make informed choices that align with your well-being when facing complex and emotionally charged decisions about treatment options (e.g., continuing or stopping treatment, using third-party reproduction, or pursuing other family-building paths).
Building Resilience and Identity
Challenging negative thought patterns and beliefs (e.g., feelings of inadequacy or failure) often associated with infertility, often using approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Redefining identity and self-worth beyond the ability to conceive.
My Approach
As both a psychologist and someone who has personally experienced infertility, I meet clients with empathy, understanding, and evidence-based tools. Approaches may include:
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
An effective tool for processing specific traumatic memories (e.g., failed IVF cycles, miscarriages, or medical trauma) to reduce their emotional intensity and help clients heal from reproductive trauma.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Promotes psychological flexibility by teaching acceptance of difficult emotions and redirecting focus toward committed action aligned with personal values, regardless of treatment outcomes.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Focuses on identifying and challenging negative thought patterns and beliefs (e.g., self-blame, feelings of failure) to directly reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.
Mind-Body Interventions (MBI)
Uses techniques like Mindfulness and deep relaxation to lower physiological stress, reduce anxiety, and improve overall well-being.
Psychoeducation & Supportive Counseling
Provides factual medical information, emotional validation, and practical coping skills to reduce feelings of isolation and overwhelming uncertainty.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) / Tapping
An energy psychology technique that involves tapping on meridian points while focusing on distressing emotions, often used to quickly reduce the intensity of anxiety, stress, and trauma triggers.
You Don't Have to
Carry This Alone
Infertility may be part of your story, but it does not define your worth or your future.
With the right support, it's possible to move through this challenging season with courage and renewed hope.
Why Choose A New Day Psychology
Personal Experience
Personal and professional expertise in infertility
Licensed Across States
Licensed in Missouri and New Jersey via PSYPACT
Flexible Telehealth
Private support from your safe space
Insurance Accepted
We work with major insurance providers
Infertility Counseling in Missouri, New Jersey & Beyond
Specialized infertility counseling and IVF support are accessible through secure telehealth. Whether you're in Kansas City, St. Louis, Newark, Jersey City, or anywhere in Missouri or New Jersey, compassionate support for your fertility journey is available from a therapist with personal experience.
Serving Missouri
Providing compassionate infertility counseling throughout Missouri, including Kansas City, St. Louis, Springfield, Columbia, and all surrounding areas.
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Offering understanding fertility support to clients across New Jersey, including Newark, Jersey City, Paterson, Elizabeth, and statewide.
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Get Help Today - Free ConsultationInfertility Counseling FAQ
How can therapy help with infertility?
Infertility counseling helps you process the grief, stress, and emotional pain of fertility struggles. Therapy provides coping strategies for treatment cycles, helps manage relationship strain, addresses feelings of shame or inadequacy, supports decision-making about treatment options, and helps you navigate the complex emotions surrounding infertility. Many clients find therapy essential for maintaining mental health during this challenging journey.
When should I start infertility counseling?
You can start therapy at any point in your fertility journey—whether you're just beginning to struggle with conception, undergoing treatments like IVF, considering alternatives like adoption, or processing pregnancy loss. You don't need to wait until you're in crisis. Early support can help prevent more serious emotional distress and provide tools for the challenges ahead.
Can infertility counseling help my relationship?
Yes, infertility places significant strain on relationships. Couples counseling for infertility addresses communication breakdowns, differing perspectives on treatment, intimacy issues, blame or resentment, and helps partners support each other through this difficult time. Many couples find that therapy strengthens their relationship and helps them work as a team rather than growing apart.
Do you work with people pursuing IVF or other fertility treatments?
Yes, we provide support throughout all stages of fertility treatment including IVF, IUI, egg freezing, surrogacy, and donor conception. Therapy can help manage the emotional rollercoaster of treatment cycles, cope with failed attempts, make decisions about continuing or stopping treatment, and process the unique challenges of assisted reproduction.
What if I've had multiple pregnancy losses?
Recurrent pregnancy loss creates profound grief and trauma that deserves specialized support. We help you process each loss, manage fear and anxiety around future pregnancies, address complicated grief, and work through feelings of failure or brokenness. EMDR can be particularly helpful for processing traumatic pregnancy losses. You don't have to carry this pain alone.
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